First appearing on the pop culture scene around the early 80's, unity candle ceremonies have grown to become a popular and important part of many protestant weddings over the last 30 years. Through the lighting of one pillar candle by the bride and groom from two taper candles, this ceremony is a touching way to signify the union of two lives in holy matrimony. And while the basics procedure stays relatively the same, there are a number different ways you can perform the ceremony for a personalized experience.
Lighting of the Taper Candles
This is the first step of the ceremony, and typically takes place just before or at the start of the wedding. Though it is traditionally thought that the mothers of the bride and the groom are to light the taper candles to signify the bride and grooms' respective 'old' lives, anyone special in their lives can take on this honor. From grandparents and children to friends and mentors, any special someone in your life can fill the role of lighting the taper candle, and help add a touch of uniqueness to your unity candle ceremony.
Lighting of the Pillar Candle
The lighting of the pillar candle is always handled by the bride and groom, and typically takes place just after the vows and rings have been exchanged. In most cases, the minister presiding over the wedding will explain the significance of the unity candle ceremony, and in many cases a song will also play throughout the ceremony. After the explanation from the minister, the bride and groom will take a flame from their respective taper candles and light the central pillar candle simultaneously. After the lighting of the pillar candle the couple may choose to put out the taper candles to signify the loss of their individual lives for sake of their new life together, or continue to let the taper flames burn as a symbol of holding on to individuality.
Where to Hold the Unity Candle Wedding Ceremony
The unity candle ceremony is most often held at the altar, though there is no set spot you must hold this ceremony. For as many weddings that have involved the unity candle ceremony, there have been nearly as many different placements of the ceremony. The only place that many couples frown on is outside. This is due to the often times uncooperative nature of the weather. However, as long as you're sure the wind won't interfere with your plans, even outside can be a touching locale for the unity candle ceremony.
Sand Unity Candles - A Unity Candle Alternative
Those looking for something a little different may want to look into a sand unity candle ceremony. In this ceremony the procedure is much the same, though instead of candle flames the bride and groom pour individual vials of sand into one big vial to symbolize the intertwining of the grains of their lives.